Want to bring up your child in a more effective manner? Here are few steps to effective parenting.
Being a parent is not an easy job. Bringing up the children in a proper way is the more difficult one. Most of the parents are least prepared for this. For the parents who want to bring up their children more properly and effectively, here are certain steps to effective parenting.
Step 1: Nurture Your Child's Self-respect
The way you talk or behave with your child plays an important role in developing his self-respect or self-esteem. Praise your child for his achievements and allow him to do the things for himself. This will help him in developing self-confidence.
Never underestimate him or pass any bad comments on him. Don't ever compare him with other children.
Step 2: Try to be a Good Role Model
Remember, your child learns a lot just by observing you. He tries to behave or act like you. This possibility increases when he is younger. Therefore, it is necessary that you model the qualities you want to develop in your child.
"ACTION SPEAKS LOUDER THAN THE WORDS", and therefore instead of speaking you can teach him the qualities like respect, honesty, friendliness, kindness, trusty and tolerance simply by your actions. Don't use aggressive words or express your anger in front of him.
Step 3: Appreciate Your Child for Being Good
Praise and appreciate your child for his good behavior. Catch him while doing something right and always pass positive comments on him. Compliment him everyday however small the reason may be. The comments like "You behave very nicely with elder people" or "You are very good at drawing" will encourage him in doing right things.
Remember that your compliments, love and kindness are the greatest gifts that you can offer to your child. Never give negative compliments or repeated scolding.
Step 4: Give the Child Your Undivided Time
In today's world where both the parents work, it often becomes difficult to give time for the children. But it's the great gift you can give your child. All the children like being observed and try to do the things by which they can gain others attention. But when these children don't receive attention, they often misbehave as they feel that this is the easiest and quickest way to gain attention.
Therefore it is very important to give some of your quality time to your child. Spend a day with him. You can take him to a garden or a restaurant once in a week probably on weekends. You can even have a breakfast or a dinner with him if possible.
Step 5: Make Clear Communications
Try to make communication your first priority. Be clear with the words. As a parent, you expect a lot from your child. So make your expectations clear. Let your child know what you expect from him and why you want him to do so.
If there are some problems, you should be able to explain it your child or even ask him for suggestions. Let your child participate in the decisions.
Step 6: Be Flexible and Try to Adjust Your Parenting Style
No child is the same and therefore you have to adjust your parenting style accordingly. Every child grows at different speeds. One child may have fast growth while the other may have slow. Comparing the two children or keeping high expectations from them may result in frustration.
Therefore a single parenting style may not work. You may have to change your parenting style according to the child's growth. What works now may not work later, so be flexible.
Step 7: Ensure the Child that Your Love is Unconditional
Let your child know that your love is unconditional and even if he misbehaves, your love for him will not change. But this doesn't mean that he can carry over his misbehavior. It is your responsibility as a parent to correct and guide your child properly. The way you do this also makes a difference.
Never blame or criticize him, instead tell him in such a way that he knows that even if you expect better next time, your love is still there for him.
Step 1: Nurture Your Child's Self-respect
The way you talk or behave with your child plays an important role in developing his self-respect or self-esteem. Praise your child for his achievements and allow him to do the things for himself. This will help him in developing self-confidence.
Never underestimate him or pass any bad comments on him. Don't ever compare him with other children.
Step 2: Try to be a Good Role Model
Remember, your child learns a lot just by observing you. He tries to behave or act like you. This possibility increases when he is younger. Therefore, it is necessary that you model the qualities you want to develop in your child.
"ACTION SPEAKS LOUDER THAN THE WORDS", and therefore instead of speaking you can teach him the qualities like respect, honesty, friendliness, kindness, trusty and tolerance simply by your actions. Don't use aggressive words or express your anger in front of him.
Step 3: Appreciate Your Child for Being Good
Praise and appreciate your child for his good behavior. Catch him while doing something right and always pass positive comments on him. Compliment him everyday however small the reason may be. The comments like "You behave very nicely with elder people" or "You are very good at drawing" will encourage him in doing right things.
Remember that your compliments, love and kindness are the greatest gifts that you can offer to your child. Never give negative compliments or repeated scolding.
Step 4: Give the Child Your Undivided Time
In today's world where both the parents work, it often becomes difficult to give time for the children. But it's the great gift you can give your child. All the children like being observed and try to do the things by which they can gain others attention. But when these children don't receive attention, they often misbehave as they feel that this is the easiest and quickest way to gain attention.
Therefore it is very important to give some of your quality time to your child. Spend a day with him. You can take him to a garden or a restaurant once in a week probably on weekends. You can even have a breakfast or a dinner with him if possible.
Step 5: Make Clear Communications
Try to make communication your first priority. Be clear with the words. As a parent, you expect a lot from your child. So make your expectations clear. Let your child know what you expect from him and why you want him to do so.
If there are some problems, you should be able to explain it your child or even ask him for suggestions. Let your child participate in the decisions.
Step 6: Be Flexible and Try to Adjust Your Parenting Style
No child is the same and therefore you have to adjust your parenting style accordingly. Every child grows at different speeds. One child may have fast growth while the other may have slow. Comparing the two children or keeping high expectations from them may result in frustration.
Therefore a single parenting style may not work. You may have to change your parenting style according to the child's growth. What works now may not work later, so be flexible.
Step 7: Ensure the Child that Your Love is Unconditional
Let your child know that your love is unconditional and even if he misbehaves, your love for him will not change. But this doesn't mean that he can carry over his misbehavior. It is your responsibility as a parent to correct and guide your child properly. The way you do this also makes a difference.
Never blame or criticize him, instead tell him in such a way that he knows that even if you expect better next time, your love is still there for him.
http://www.buzzle.com/articles/steps-to-effective-parenting.html
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